Woman almost rehomes her two cats for entitled boyfriend who won't compromise, until the internet stepped in with a purrfect reality check: 'Once the pets are yours, you don’t give them up for anything'

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Blake Seidel • Managing Editor & Brand Manager
Nov 11, 2025 12:00 PM EST

Pets are a responsibility for life - that's what the woman in this post has hopefully learned by now. She has a 3 and 5-year-old cat, whom she is considering rehoming to move in with her boyfriend, with "severe cat allergies". He gets hives, which can't be fun to deal with at all. The problem is that he won't compromise at all - he won't take an allergy pill, won't accept them being furbidden from certain spaces, not even if they eat hypoallergenic food and vacuum every day. She was actually thinking about it, until the internet got its claws out and reminded her of the most important rule of pawrenthood: you don't give your pets up for anything.

Cats will be with you through the good times and bad. They'll be with you through many relationships, breakups, heartaches, joyful meowments, and everything in between. We can't say the same about a boyfriend. Your cats are your responsibility and no one else's - they quite literally rely on you to take care of them. And no, it doesn't matter where you give them up to - be it a family member or a shelter, those cats will always wonder why you stopped being their hooman. 

We hope she finds a solution to her dilemma; anything that doesn't involve treating her cats like they are any less than family will do.

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    [Am I wrong for] giving up my 2 cats for a relationship

    Woman crying while holding a cat including 'They've been there through past bfs and my divorce... I just don't know if I can get rid of them'
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    So me (25F) and my bf (28M) are moving forward in our relationship. Things have been good and while we have our ups and downs, this is a major step.
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    He wants to move in together but he's highly allergic to cats. I have 2(5yrF and 3yrM) they aren't bad cats or anything, bfs just allergic.
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    Like break out into hives allergic. He won't consider taking any allergy meds and he won't compromise on me cleaning and vacuuming everyday.
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    Man with cat allergies
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    He's concerned that they'll destroy his couch, which I said I'd get the little cat nail cover so they can't.
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    I even said that they wouldn't be allowed in the bedroom. But he's very adamant about NOT having them.
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    He doesn't hate cats, he just can't be around them. We've only been together for a little over a year but those are my babies.
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  • Not to get too philosophical over here on a page about funny cats on the internets, but there comes a point in all of our lives when we have to learn one purrfect, yet terrible truth: love is not enough to keep a relationship alive. There are many factors that go into a healthy, long-lasting relationship, and for many cat lovers, one of the main ones is that their partner must also love cats. Otherwise, one of you will have to live in a compromise for the rest of their lives.

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    They've been there through past bfs and my divorce and even my dad's death. I just don't know if I can get rid of them.
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    I would be able to give them to my mom and brother but it just feels wrong.
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    But I also don't want to lose the best relationship I've had over cats. I was always around cats my whole life and I love them.
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    Two cats sleeping
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    And I was brought up with the fact that once the pets are yours, you don't give them up for anything.
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    I guess I just need some outside perspective cuz my sister and her bf are able to have cats and think I should end things with my bf.
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  • We also think you should end things with your bf, sweetie. Sorry. He's allergic to cats, won't compromise, and you love cats. There's not much to discuss here. You're simply not compatible.

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    But this is also our future and I don't want to sacrifice him for cats. It sounds a little ridiculous but I really am stuck.
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    The cats know and love me and I feel bad for thinking about giving them up, even if they go to family who I know will love them and take amazing care of them.
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    EDIT: I would never consider giving them to a shelter. The only place they would go would be to my moms or brother who's been around them and they come over all the time.
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    And to anyone saying I'm disgusting for considering this is not helpful.
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    . Impressive_Spray_704 20h ago If you actually consider giving up pets for a man, especially when he won't even try to compromise then yes you are an hole and don't deserve your beautiful pets.
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    TribeFaninPA · 20h ago If you get rid of those cats, you will cause them trauma from wondering where their human went, and you will resent your boyfriend and that resentment will grow. Don't move in with this guy and seeing as how his allergy is not going to go away, you may need to really consider if you two are compatible.
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    HoneyBunHarlot • 20h ago Imo if he can't make concessions regarding something so important to you, your furry pals who've been there thru thick n thin, what's gonna happen when you face bigger life challenges?
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    hiraeth_stars • 20h ago YTA Pets are a commitment. For their lives, not for when it's convenient for you.
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    Distinct-Opposite820 20h ago Do you know for a fact he's even allergic to them like he says? | knew a guy who claimed he broke out into hives around them but he just didn't like cats and was never actually allergic.
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    If he used to be allergic, it's worth having him at least meet them to see how he reacts. Some people (like myself) grow out of their allergies or can build up a tolerance. I'm just wondering how you've even been in a relationship with him if he's so allergic because no matter what you'd have cat fur and dander on your clothes when you're around him?
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    If your boyfriend can't compromise on taking an allergy pill every morning why should you compromise on giving up two living creatures who you love and love you in return?
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